autisticenjolras:

while looking at some more survivor resources, i thought of this. 

not everyone who experiences abuse is going to be okay afterwards. plenty of people tell us, “oh, well you can still succeed!” or “you can overcome this!” and we’re expected to be an inspirational story for people. 

like “yeah, i was sexually abused, but i’m also an olympian.” or “yeah, i was bullied my whole childhood, but i’m the head of my own company.” etc. etc.

sometimes the abuse is debilitating. sometimes recovery isn’t possible for us, at least not for a good long while. we deserve help and if we can recover and grow and heal that is wonderful. 

but there’s nothing wrong with you if you can’t. if you’re living with flashbacks every day, that’s okay. it’s fine if you can’t work, if you can’t be what everyone expects you to be. 

survival is difficult enough as it is. i’m so proud of you for doing just that, every day.